Oh my god ! Cut your hair . You look like a hippie 🙄. STOP texting while I’m talking to you. Who is that girl and why is she calling you so late 😱. LET ME NOT CATCH YOU SMOKING !😡When I was your age , I aced my subjects 😎. Why did you switch the screen ?Are u watching porn 😱
When I was your age ….. Blah blah
On and on it goes , while your teen with his ear phones ON , has already walked out !
The minute we become mothers ,we presume to have become the epitome of a perfect parent!
We were angels as kids , Holier than thou in our teens and perfect responsible adults later .
Really? As the adage goes —
” kids don’t do as you say but do as you do”
If your words don’t match up your actions , kids will see through you seen enough and all your advices fall on deaf ears leaving u frustrated.
And your kid learns to develop dual personality .They wil hide , lie , keep secrets and you will live in an illusion not realising your apple of the eye is becoming a stranger to you .
I tried the ” I – will – show -mine- you – show – yours ” method 😜
I shared with my son all my stupidity, my silly moves , my experiences in school and college .
Some cool stuff ,some downright stupidity . some grave mistakes that had compelling consequences.
Like how I failed my English test with 3/25 .
How I flouted rules , got caught and faced the principal more often than not .
My awkwardness , my hatred for social studies , my animosity towards a certain teacher , my passions my failures ,
My friendships , my relationships with my parents , my choices .
I laid it all out as honestly as I could telling him he can learn from my experiences and from my mistakes .
Of course he is welcome to make his own mistakes and grow .
I noticed we got closer as he grew , he was more open to sharing and I learnt from him .
When I’m not perfect why on earth would I want him to be ?
I’m fondly calling all the so called flaws I or anyone else noticed in him as ” manufacturing defects” .
I am learning to give him space , right to make his own choices and face the consequences . It’s ok . Really.
I’m there if and when he falls . I’ll pick him up and we will move on .
Every day I discover new things about him . Delightful !
Some I love , some are funny , some quirky and some I’ll learn to live with (easier said then done) . Fewer the better though .
I’ll be his strength and he is mine .
We will learn grow and live life on our own terms and not on ” how it’s meant to be ” .
Thank you for being here, with me .
Your opinions are warmly solicited.